Wisdom of French Monarchy Era.

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Indeed!

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The power to seduce is not as precious as the ability to open a mind. Those who seek accolades to affirm one's ability decorate the veils of ignorance of others instead of lifting these unfortunate veils of ignorance will seldom gain one of the greatest treasures of life: the knowledge that there is a little bit more light in the world because one has lived a life of radical transparency and radical truthfulness.

So few of us will be remembered in the years to come, but the mark we leave in the timeline will last forever. What will you choose? Recognition or compassion when no one is paying attention? Words do matter. But the feeling you leave with another Soul is even more important.

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Very true, and the basis of "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie and countless life and public speaking coaches ever since. It does take a lot of practice to, in conversation, be interested in what the other person is saying and encourage them to tell their story, instead of your own. 

I'm finding, after a year or so of not being around people outside of my own family, that those conversations skills are rusty-but so, it seems, are everyone else's, we are all eager to be heard. This last weekend we attended a wedding-the first large gathering of people, both friends and people we just met-and instead of the normal reluctance, we found everyone was so eager and happy to converse. Anyone else find this to be true?

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I'll take compassion every time.

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This topic always brings to mind a fascinating quote - "He viewed himself as a midwife assisting others in giving birth to the truth..." (and here is a funny TEDx Video about it)

Of course, they killed Socrates for it - or rather the power it held when shined on the structure of Athens at the time.

Not all conversations nor most assumptions making up said conversation, are truly based on an open-minded exploration of the truth and reality - is it equally beneficial to have one or one hundred pleasant conversations based on mutual appreciation of each others intellect and choices?

Or instead far fewer conversations, which are designed to get at the truth of an idea, or the framework of reality... and what to do about it?

It is considered socially impolite and even unkind to challenge incorrect assumptions and explore the misunderstandings which many people carry around every day - but if given the choice and the belief that the truth is actually more kind than the lie - in the long run - how does that factor into the conversations and topics you choose to engage in - in your daily life?

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🤔🤔🤔 Well, I know patience matters a lot. I stopped trying to convince people that they were wrong but instead plant seeds 🌱 of the truth and try to let human curiosity take over. I don't always give them the answer that I already know. I let them decide if they want to go on this journey to find out the truth. And it saves a lot of time too. I can spend like months trying to convince a woman that coronavirus has a polybasic cleavage site and is dangerous, and someone with a medical degree can tell her it's nothing to worry about. And she'll believe him instead because he has a piece of paper on a wall that says that he is better than I am. Or... I can just tell her the truth and wait for reality to catch up to what I told her about the future. And maybe she'll remember who told her the truth and who told her "noble" truths (actually lies). Who knows? But I know I no longer try to tell everyone everything all at once. Human curiosity is powerful. If you have conversations with the right seeds, people will find the truth by themselves. 🌱

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Thanks for all comments,

I totally agree with most,
There is an old saying which goes "Torture is the consequence of those who attempt to educate people beyond their ability to fathom"
Unfortunately!

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Ray Dalio says that it's worth the time to get in sync, and you should invest lavishly in the time to do so. And he is right. You never know who you are destined to meet and how important those people are to the fate of the entire human race. A little patience before you give up is wise. Just sitting down and listen 🎧 can make all the difference in the world.

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Yes, but only in so much as BOTH parties are trying to truly get IN-SYNC, as in: past the ego barriers, understanding the 2nd and 3rd order consequences - and are grounding things in REALITY.

While also NOT getting bogged down in specifics, but can understand the above and below the line structures.

Dalio mentions that it can take up to a year to see if someone is truly well-suited for their position, and I it takes people eighteen to twenty-four months to get acclimated and benefit from truthfulness and tough-love - or to decide that it's not for them and to move on.

If we each are investing time lavishly, while certainly NOT being aware of the RESULTS of others ability to transform and embrace this fundamental shift in their actions and thinking... it seems impossible to gain the INITIAL inertia to get a TRAJECTORY underway.

^That's my personal struggle in a nut-shell, and the reason I'm here!

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